I’ve had conversations with 2 different people in the past 2 days about fear and overcoming adversity.
People who feared they might fail.
People who’d been knocked down…or knocked themselves down.
And what I know is that they’re not unique.
They’re not alone.
We’ve all got our fears.
We’ve all had our challenges and our struggles.
I know I have.
I’ve had 3 separate points in my adult life where I feared that I might fail.
Where an adversity I’d experienced made me question myself.
Here’s how I overcame those points…
1. I reflected back on the success I’d had to that point. What I had achieved and how I got there. That it was earned and deserved.
2. I took the time to acknowledge that fear was a natural, impulsive response, but the acronym that seems like a cliche is in fact true:
False - Evidence - Appearing - Real
I looked back at those successes I’d had and that was real… while my fears were based on hypotheticals. So, I accepted that while it was OK to have some fear of the unknown, I had earned the right to be confident in myself.
3. I stacked up small wins. If you want confidence, the easiest way to get it is to experience success…so instead of the natural reactions to fear of freezing or overthinking things, I found ways to achieve small victories that would give me the confidence and momentum I needed.